REAL TALK FOR PARENTS

WITH KIDS IN THE SYSTEM

Be the person YOU are proud to be. Everything else follows.

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#Friendship #Love #Truth #Loyalty #ALWAYS

#ParentingThroughPain #BuildYourselfFirst #SelfRespect #RealTalk #AuthenticHealing

When kids are placed in care, especially the little ones who are 3, 4, 5 years old - they're going to grow up and search for you. They're going to want to understand who their parent really is.

But here's the real truth: Build yourself first so YOU are satisfied with who you are.

Not for the system. Not for the caseworkers. Not for anyone else's approval.

Build the version of yourself that makes YOU proud when you look in the mirror.

Because when you're genuinely satisfied with who you've become, that authenticity shows. That's what creates the digital legacy worth finding.

The question that should guide every post: What do you want your child to find when they're old enough to look?

Do you want them to find someone who was building themselves into someone they genuinely respected? Someone who was doing the real work, even in the hardest times?

Your social media isn't just about today. It's creating the story your child will read about you tomorrow.

When you build yourself for YOU first - with real satisfaction and self-respect - that's when you become the parent your child deserves to discover.

Be the person YOU are proud to be. Everything else follows. 🤍❤️🖤

When I feel that longing and when I feel that sorrow, then I allow myself to do that for a good while. But I've also learned after the years I've had grief, I've missed, it has hurt in my heart, that I must also put a stop to it. Because otherwise it eats you up, and when it eats you up then comes the hate, then comes all that stuff that doesn't make us a good person - not even to ourselves, most of all to ourselves.

So I allow myself to miss, I allow myself to feel sorrow for a little while, and then I get back up and I use the longing and the grief to become strong, to do what I believe in. But most of all to build my own self-worth.

It's the same with all this as it is with visibility - what you build and see about yourself. The journey has been long. I'm plus 50 years. I lost my children many years ago, not because I wanted to, because people lied about me. But if I were to let that eat me up, then I won't become the strong mother, woman - call it what you want - that I need to be the day my children come out from the system. To build yourself from the inside out, that's so important.

But here comes one more thing that's important: if you want to ask for help from someone you don't know, or someone you've met but don't know how to talk to, do it anyway. My experience is that all people have something else beneath the surface that maybe hasn't been visible. Nobody does right always. Not even me. Nobody is perfect. But that doesn't mean you have the right to ignore other people. It just means you have the right to say no, I don't want to, or yes, I want to. But that choice must come when the question is there. Be the person YOU are proud to be. Everything else follows. 🤍❤️🖤